About Me
Welcome!
I am so happy that you found me!!
You might be wondering, who is Nicole King?
I am 50 years old, hold a bachelor of social work degree, married to my high school
sweetheart, mother of 2 grown children, and live a pretty simple life in central
Wisconsin. Those are the boring basics. 
I am also a recovering people pleaser, over-sharer, over-explainer, eggshell walker, and
someone who apologized for things I wasnât responsible for,âŠâŠblah, blah, blah, blah.
Of course, I had no idea at the time what I was actually doing. Doing all of those things
was who I was; my personality; part of what made me a âgood personâ or so I thought. It
was all part of my subconscious âprogrammingâ for lack of a better word. Recently, my
subconscious mind decided to wake up and let my conscious mind in on what it has
been up to for the last 49 years. Itâs been a fun ride, so far.
I also practice sarcasm,
on occasion.
I want to preface the following by saying that I am including my physical and mental
health issues not for sympathy but to be upfront about the experiences that I blog about
and to show my compassion and empathy to others as I have also lived them. They
explain how and why I came to create this blog. I have lived with anxiety and
depression for most of my life, and I have been able to manage them fairly well with medication for about 20 years. I grew up in an emotionally abusive household and that
abuse carried on until I went no-contact with my parents very recently. Over the last 9
years, I have lived with chronic pain on a daily basis (fibromyalgia, migraines, chronic
fatigue syndrome, occipital neuralgia) and this has caused me to become disabled and
not able to work. People who I have trusted the most in my life have broken that trust
over and over, and that has led me to push away a lot of people. I now live a very
secluded life. The side effects of the medication I take cause memory, cognitive, and
processing issues. I lost the job I loved because of my chronic pain issues as they
caused me to miss too much work. So, these explain much more about who I am.
Remember, I am a recovering over-sharer, it is a work in progress.
Am I an experienced blogger?
Absolutely not! If you are looking for a fancy, polished, experienced blog, my blog may
not be right for you. I would love it if you would stay, but I am extremely new to the
blogging world and I am not a professional by any means, and I donât claim to be.
Creating a blog and writing about the most personal and private issues going on in my
life is nothing I ever thought I would be doing. My background and experience is
working with people and emotions, generally face-to-face or by phone, but certainly not
writing about my own. I never even liked to journal! However, I have always believed
that life experiences shared with others are a wonderful way to connect, learn, and feel
less alone. I know for myself, when I have read or watched other people talk about
things they are going through that I am as well, I find it very comforting.
Why âLiving with Purposeâ blog?
The âLiving with Purposeâ blog was born after going through the lowest point in my life
when I suffered an emotional breakdown, where I hoped to go to sleep and not wake up
because I felt as if I couldnât take, what I called, âone more hitâ, or something else going
wrong. I was so sick of waiting for the ânext shoe to drop.â
Just prior to my breakdown I had re-started mental health therapy, but just like I had
done several years prior when I had gone to therapy, with a different therapist, I knew I
really wasnât allowing myself tell âmy real storyâ, I wasnât really letting myself get the
help that I truly needed. However, I was in a much different place than I had been in
years before, my mental and physical health were much worse this time and I knew that
I was feeling more hopeless than I had ever been before. I finally found the courage to
reach out to my therapist, and I ripped the fake mask off that I had been wearing most
of my life, in order to save my life. I needed to find peace and purpose in my life again
because I had lost both. That was the day that I became the most âreal and rawâ that I
have ever been in my life. It was the day that I started to find true peace in my life. It
was the day that I realized no matter what my current physical or mental health issues are or what my employment status is, my purpose in life has never really changed, I
want to help people. The method by which I help people now needs to change.
Thus the âLiving with Purposeâ blog came to be as part of my therapy and by finding my
voice, and sharing my story, my truth, my hope is that I can help and connect with others
who may be going through similar struggles. I am truly living my purpose.
Besides the blog, I will share quotes that I like (and I really like quotes), product
recommendations, information on mental health topics, self-care, personal
development, and basically all things that can make life easier or better.
Hopefully, I havenât bored you to tears and you are still with me. I appreciate your being
here and would love to have you along for âLiving with Purposeâ.
